TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust
> is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads
> to
> suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and
> enmity may result in separation.
> A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone
> call.
> She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She
> repeated, "PUB."
>
> There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line,
> she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the
> number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it
> is." Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the
> couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello"
> instead
> of "PUB".
>
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> NO POINTING FINGERS
>
> A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a
> successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
> The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticise your wife
> for
> her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in
> mind
> that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find
> a better husband than you."
>
> We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are
> afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake,
> he
> would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at.
>
> This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we
> point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing
> at ourselves.
>
> If we forgive others, others will ignore our mistake too.
>
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> CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
>
> A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and
> requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a
> suitable one."
>
> The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good
> looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing
> and
> dancing.
> Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure
> hour,if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need
> companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest."
>
> The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need
> television."
>
> There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a
> blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see
> the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the
> nagging
> of the wife.
>
> Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of
> perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement
> of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a
> bed
> of roses.
>
> The nightmare begins.
>
>
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>
>
> NO OVERPOWERING
>
> Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower
> another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love
> will
> conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after
> marriage.
>
> Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which
> carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or
> river than a person's character."
>
> It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing
> the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
>
> It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our
> expectations..
>
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> RIGHT SPEECH
>
> There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech
> will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break
> off
> because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each
> other,
> we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything
> without considering if it would hurt the other party.
>
> A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction
> site.
> A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily!
> Remember
> me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her
> millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise
> you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered, "You
> should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the
> millionaire and not you."
>
> Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad
> relationship.
>
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> PERSONAL PERCEPTION
>
> Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be
> another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On
> the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them
> ride on the donkey?"
>
> Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey.
>
> He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented,
> "The husband is the head of family.
>
> How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?"
> Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride
> on
> the donkey.
>
> Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How
> can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk He is no
> gentleman."
>
> The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
>
> Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can
> you
> hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you."
>
> Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from
> the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the
> only
> choice left.
>
> Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled.
> They lost their balance and fell into the river.
>
> You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn
> you.
>
> Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
>
> Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is
> clear..
>
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> BE PATIENT
>
> This is a true story which happened in the States.
>
> A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his
> puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into
> the shiny paint of the truck.
>
> The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's
> hands into pulp as punishment.
>
> When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
> Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones,
> he
> finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.
>
> When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he
> innocently said, " Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck" Then he
> asked,"but when are my fingers going to grow back?"
>
> The father went home & committed suicide. Think about this story
> the
> next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge.
> Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks
> can
> be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't.
>
> Too often we fail to recognise the difference between the person
> and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than
> revenge.
>
> People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the
> actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
>
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>
> Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. Forgive &
> forget.
>
> Love one and all.
>
> If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
1.Admit it with a full sincere
2.learn from it
3.Don't repeat it
(Taubat concept)